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"don't chase the highs and don't avoid the lows" huhh?!!!?!! https://open.spotify.com/episode/09Y0RDscRfCV0b09IZUfZA?si=H0ue8xHKTD6CesWeWqZvOw&utm_source=native-share-menu
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I'm now watching damiens video "the god making machine" (FOOORGE) https://www.patreon.com/posts/171261001
really needed to hear this
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Nice, first time I'm hearing of the "second arrow" buddhist parable that he mentions. https://www.shamashalidina.com/blog/pain-suffering-story/
"Being grateful for what hardship teaches you doesn't mean pretending that hardship was good. It doesn't mean injustice becomes justice, or tragedy becomes something we should celebrate. It means refusing to let what happened have the final word on who you become."
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Started collecting thoughts on the „achiever“ archetype here: https://www.tender.garden/knowledge/the-achiever
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Concepts (97)
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Resentment
Resentment makes us see people with less loving eyes, it leads to negative sentiment override and the Golem effect. By choosing to address a conflict instead of sweeping it under the rug, I can take responsibility to prevent resentment from building up over time. "I delayed truth until it hardened into resentment because resentment felt safer than vulnerability. Resentment preserves power without risking rejection." – Care in Avoiding boundaries is not kindness "When internal boundaries are weak or absent, resentment becomes the substitute. And resentment is dangerous because it disguises itself as moral clarity while actually being deferred responsibility. It says, you should have known, when the truth is, I didn’t say." – Care in Avoiding boundaries is not kindness "For me, resentment is often closer to jealousy than to anger. It sounds like: “Well, I didn’t say anything when you did X last fall.” What I’m really saying is: I cannot hold your boundary because I cannot hold or speak my own." – Care in Avoiding boundaries is not kindness - The Work by Byron Katie can be a great way to examine thoughts that are colored by resentment
UpdatedNovember 5, 2026
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Aura Work
Aura Work is a part of Energy Work that focuses on your own energetic field. What kind of energy am I emitting and at what intensity? Aura Work shows that changes inside of us also affect how the outer world reacts toward us. It can be both practiced independently as well as being a side effect of other spiritual practice like Shadow Work. Examples: - Increasing charisma - Roleplay, switching between personas - The Marilyn Monroe Effect
CreatedNovember 4, 2026
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Energy Work
Defining Energy Work is an ongoing process for us. Below is a list of things that we mean when we talk about working with energy: - Adopting an energy perspective (how energy moves through systems, e.g. the organism; as above, so below) - Becoming more conscious of what goes in and what goes out - Where do we put our attention (thoughts, focus)? - Which energy and emotions do we pick up (energetic boundaries and shields)? - Understanding what gives us and what costs us energy (energy leaks) - Increasing the capacity of how much energy (tension, complexity, emotions, …) can be held in presence - Invoking and moving energy - Aura Work - Transmutation, releasing emotions, raising vibrations
CreatedNovember 4, 2026
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Gratitude Journaling
Gratitude journaling is a type of journaling that focuses on regularly writing down things we’re thankful for. By noticing and recording even small moments of joy, connection, or beauty, we train our attention toward what’s working rather than what’s lacking. Over time, this light work practice can shift our perception and deepen appreciation for everyday life. On a sheet of paper, write down things you're grateful for, starting sentences like this: - "I love..." - "I love, when..." - "I'm grateful for..." - "I'm grateful, that..." We recommend using explicit examples that help really feel the gratitude. For example, instead of "I love nature" you could write down "I love how the forest smells on a beautiful summer day." - Medium: Gratitude journaling can be used as part of a larger journaling practice (for example in Life Beyond Suffering) or in a dedicated space. We both use a dedicated journal for gratitude.
UpdatedNovember 4, 2026
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Ultimate Success Mantra
The Ultimate Success Mantra is a mantra that was developed by Gay Hendricks and presented in his book The Big Leap. It is designed to be an antidote to the Upper Limit Problem. "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same."
UpdatedOctober 21, 2026
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Flashlight of Awareness
Flashlight of Awareness is a form of meditation that uses the ability to move our attention like a beam of a flashlight. It lets us focus our awareness on a single thing, such as a part of our body, a feeling, a sound, or a thought. The goal of this practice is to look into a specific part of our experience with curiosity and wonder. For example, if we feel pain or stiffness in a certain body part, we can shine our light of awareness there. Similarly, when we feel a certain emotion, it can help to notice where we feel it, and what it feels like. By choosing to be the curious observer that directs the beam, we can loosen our grasp on the experience and identify less with it. - Choose a target: a body area, an emotion, or anything else you want to look at - Point the beam of awareness at it and rest your attention there - Feel into it, breathe into it (do this as long as you want) - Observe how it feels with curiosity, without trying to change it - Notice anything that comes up: sensations, images, thoughts - When your mind wanders, notice where the beam went and gently bring it back (mindfulness meditation) - To finish, widen the beam to your whole body or the room around you
CreatedOctober 3, 2026
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Article: Damien Echols on the Bow
On his Patreon, Damien Echols published an article called The Bow. "The bow signals that you have crossed a threshold, stepping out of ordinary life and into sacred space." "Bowing is one of the first things we learn in martial arts, but it is also one of the last things we ever truly understand. It looks simple enough, just a gesture of lowering your head or bending at the waist. Yet behind it lies centuries of tradition, layers of meaning, and a depth of practice that can change the way we move through the world." "When you bow, you acknowledge that what you are about to do matters." "One of the deepest meanings of the bow is respect. When we bow to the mat, we respect the training ground. When we bow to our instructors, we respect the years they endured to make it possible for us to stand where we stand. When we bow to our partners, we respect the fact that they place their bodies in our hands and trust us not to abuse them." "Carried into daily life, this respect transforms us. When you bow often enough in the dojang, you begin bowing inwardly in other places too. You show respect for the food you eat, the people you encounter, the work you do, even the difficulties you face. Life itself becomes the teacher, and every moment deserves the bow." "Over time, the repetition of bowing works like the repetition of forms, mantras, or prayers. At first, it feels simple. Then it feels redundant. But slowly, something deeper emerges. You realize that the bow is not just a ritual at the beginning and end of practice. It is practice itself." "In this way, bowing becomes a daily act of alchemy. It turns routine into ritual. It transforms ordinary gestures into sacred acknowledgments. It keeps us from falling into the illusion that only certain moments matter. With the bow, every moment becomes practice." "Each bow is an initiation. Each bow is a threshold. Each bow is a chance to dissolve pride, to return to presence, to remember gratitude. Over a lifetime of practice, bowing transforms us…not because of the movement itself, but because of the meaning we bring to it."
UpdatedNovember 4, 2026
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Book: Life Beyond Suffering
The book Life Beyond Suffering: A Guided Practice by Kinzer MB is a 60 day workbook with the following elements for each day: - Guided writing practice - Write down things you're grateful for
UpdatedNovember 4, 2026
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Book: The Big Leap
In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks introduces the Upper Limit Problem and shows how we can move past it. "Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure." Gay Hendricks lists 4 barriers that are causing the upper limit problem to be triggered. "If you have a deep, old feeling that there's something wrong, bad, or flawed about you, you will find yourself grappling with that issue every time you break through to greater love and financial abundance." "This thought creates cognitive dissonance, the mind rattle that occurs when you try to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time: Given that I am fundamentally flawed (or wrong or bad), how can I possibly be this happy, rich, and creative?" "The cognitive dissonance must be resolved in one of two ways: by returning to your previous thermostat setting; or by letting go of the old, limiting belief, which allows you to stabilize at the new, higher level." "You're likely to feel, at a deep and unconscious level, that your quest for a life of your own and success on your own terms has come at the cost of leaving behind your roots and being disloyal to those who loved you."
UpdatedOctober 5, 2026
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