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Knowledge Base
A growing and constantly updated library of concepts, tools, and resources that have been helpful to us.
Concepts (93)
Ideas and topics that help us understand our world.
Meditation
Meditation is about taking time to slow down, be present, and listen to what's going on inside and around us. Meditation may serve different purposes, for example: - Mindfulness Meditation: A focus on observing thoughts and practicing the ability to notice when the mind is wandering. - Working with the unconscious: Bringing ourselves into a meditative state to uncover what is hidden (shadow work) or to make positive change of patterns and belief systems (light work). Most meditations incorporate some or many of the following practices: - Stillness - Breathing - Visualization - Bringing attention to the body and our senses
Attention
Attention is power. Where do we direct our attention? Who do we give it to? External attention (like feeling desired, admired...) can lead to spiritual ego. It's important to not confuse this type of attention with connection. Attention is a near enemy of love. "What you pay attention to grows." – adrienne maree brown in Emergent Strategy "The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers." – ThĂch Nhất Hạnh - Flashlight of Awareness - Gratitude Journaling
Upper Limit Problem
The Upper Limit Problem describes the tendency to unconsciously sabotage ourselves when we surpass a familiar level of success, happiness, or love. Rooted in internalized beliefs and fears, it limits our capacity to grow, like an internal ceiling. Overcoming it means expanding our ability to receive and sustain well-being without self-sabotage. The term Upper Limit Problem was coined by psychologist and author Gay Hendricks in his book The Big Leap. - Impostor syndrome - Fear of outshining When we're getting too focused on raising our upper limit, it can happen that we fall into the trap of the Arrival Fallacy. When we focus too much on a vague sense of expansion that we think will allow us to be happy in the future, we can forget that raising the upper limit is supposed to allow us to live life fully in the present moment. As above so below: just as individuals hit an inner ceiling on how much joy, success, or peace they allow, collectives (and the human organism as a whole) can unconsciously limit how much well-being or transformation they believe is possible. When systemic breakthroughs arise toward justice, healing, or liberation, they often meet resistance not just from external forces, but from within the collective psyche. This may show up as backlash, polarization, or a retreat into the familiar. Recognizing the collective Upper Limit Problem invites us to ask: What are we afraid of when things get better? And how can we expand our shared capacity to hold more possibility, not just individually, but together?
Tools (25)
Exercises and practices that help us shape our world.
Flashlight of Awareness
Flashlight of Awareness is a form of meditation that uses the ability to move our attention like a beam of a flashlight. It lets us focus our awareness on a single thing, such as a part of our body, a feeling, a sound, or a thought. The goal of this practice is to look into a specific part of our experience with curiosity and wonder. For example, if we feel pain or stiffness in a certain body part, we can shine our light of awareness there. Similarly, when we feel a certain emotion, it can help to notice where we feel it, and what it feels like. By choosing to be the curious observer that directs the beam, we can loosen our grasp on the experience and identify less with it. - Choose a target: a body area, an emotion, or anything else you want to look at - Point the beam of awareness at it and rest your attention there - Feel into it, breathe into it (do this as long as you want) - Observe how it feels with curiosity, without trying to change it - Notice anything that comes up: sensations, images, thoughts - When your mind wanders, notice where the beam went and gently bring it back (mindfulness meditation) - To finish, widen the beam to your whole body or the room around you
The Work by Byron Katie
The Work by Byron Katie is a method that allows us to examine our thoughts. The Work revolves around asking the following questions about a thought: - Is it true? - Can you absolutely know that it's true? - How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? - Who would you be without that thought? While it is beneficial to take the time for each of the questions and write the answers down (for example using a technique like stream of consciousness writing), the more experienced we get with the process, the easier it is for it to have an effect even when we just speak it or do it in our heads. After working with the questions, there is another principle called Turnarounds. Come up with opposites of the original statement and then find examples for how these turnarounds can be just as true. Official instructions by Byron Katie.
Ultimate Success Mantra
The Ultimate Success Mantra is a mantra that was developed by Gay Hendricks and presented in his book The Big Leap. It is designed to be an antidote to the Upper Limit Problem. "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same."
Resources (34)
Books and other resources that we recommend.
Book: The Big Leap
In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks introduces the Upper Limit Problem and shows how we can move past it. - Ultimate Success Mantra
Article: Damien Echols on Leaving Ritual Behind
On his Patreon, Damien Echols published an article called Leaving Ritual Behind. "For many years, ritual work was the center of my life. [...] And it worked. Unquestionably. It changed my inner landscape, sharpened my attention, reorganized my psyche, and altered the trajectory of my life in very concrete ways." "Because of that history, people often assume I must still be doing ritual work daily. [...] The answer surprises them: no, I don’t. And if ritual is done correctly, there will come a time when you don’t either." "The Buddha gives a perfect metaphor for this in the Diamond Sutra. He describes it as crossing a river. To cross it, you need a raft. The raft is essential. Without it, you will drown. But once you reach the other shore, carrying the raft on your back would be absurd. The raft has done its job. You leave it behind and continue walking." "In the beginning, ritual is a technology. [...] Ritual gives the untrained mind something to hold onto while it learns how to stay present." "Early on, ritual feels powerful because it is. The practitioner’s inner world is chaotic, fragmented, and reactive. Ritual introduces order. It creates boundaries. It teaches cause and effect on an internal level. You perform an action with intent, and something changes. This is intoxicating, because you realize it’s not fantasy, and it gives you agency where there was previously confusion and helplessness." "Over time, if the work is done correctly and with great devotion, the effects of ritual stop being episodic and start becoming structural. [...] Presence begins to appear on its own more and more often in “regular life.”" "At a certain point, ritual becomes redundant." "Ritual, in its early stages, often involves negotiation with the world…requests, invocations, adjustments. Later, that impulse disappears. The practitioner no longer seeks leverage over circumstances. Instead, they remove the internal friction that prevents reality from moving cleanly through them." "When ritual has done its job, it leaves you with something quieter and far more demanding: the responsibility to meet each moment directly, without ceremony, without insulation, and without excuses."
Article: Care on Avoiding Boundaries
On their Substack newsletter Erotics of Liberation, Care published an article called Avoiding boundaries is not kindness. It is a refusal to risk being known in real time. "I tell myselves I struggle with boundaries because no one taught me. Because of my intersections. Because of white supremacy. Because of trauma. Because of history. And all of that is true. And, it’s not the whole truth." "I am tired of my wounds. Not in a bypassy way, not in a “just get over it” way—but in the way that comes when you realize that healing doesn’t only mean tending to pain. It also means losing the identities we’ve built around our wounds." "_The truth is: I struggle with boundaries a lot because I struggle with intimacy." "I delayed truth until it hardened into resentment because resentment felt safer than vulnerability. Resentment preserves power without risking rejection." "Over time, I’ve come to understand that boundaries are not just about self-protection; they are a direct line to my capacity for accountability. When I don’t hold my boundaries, resentment begins to accumulate." "I stay silent. I’m scared to set a boundary because I learned early on that boundaries threaten the relationship—and sometimes my safety within it. I learned that it was safer to abandon myself in service of the relationship than to risk the freedom that might exist outside of it." "When internal boundaries are weak or absent, resentment becomes the substitute. And resentment is dangerous because it disguises itself as moral clarity while actually being deferred responsibility. It says, you should have known, when the truth is, I didn’t say." "For me, resentment is often closer to jealousy than to anger. It sounds like: “Well, I didn’t say anything when you did X last fall.” What I’m really saying is: I cannot hold your boundary because I cannot hold or speak my own." "When a boundary finally appears—but it isn’t mine—the one I should have set months or years ago arrives late, charged, absolute, and often absurd. It’s not a boundary anymore. There is no room for repair then, only punishment wrapped in layers of defensiveness. Accountability, at that point, can no longer be practiced."